7 Secrets and techniques About Males Most Girls Don’t Know

Have you ever taken a moment to think what dating must be like for… men? Many women believe, when it comes to dating, men hold all the cards. This could be because they’ve been rejected by men in the past, been played or cheated on by men, or simply brought up to believe that’s just the way it is. Whether or not you think men have the power overall, I write today to increase your awareness of some ways in which men definitely do not have the power. Many of these may never have even occurred to you. The more you can understand men and where they are coming from, the more success you’ll have in dating and forming relationships with them. So, here’s 7 disadvantages men have in dating you might never have previously considered.

1. Men have to risk rejection a lot more than women

If there’s a standout advantage women have, this has to be it.

The fact is, women must deal with a lot less rejection in dating than men. If a woman is unwilling to make a move on a man, she can sub communicate to him she wants him to make one, without risking a real rejection. If that doesn’t work, a different man will try his luck. She can meet and get chatting to a lot of men, without having to risk a direct rejection. While women are just as vulnerable to rejection, once in a relationship, a woman can have a successful dating life, without ever being rejected. She may not have quite as many options, but she’ll still have options, especially if she knows how to give men proper green lights.

If a man doesn’t – at some point – ‘man’ up and make a move, then generally he’s going home alone. No matter how much he gives a woman eye contact, it will usually be him who has to walk over, him who has to kiss her, and him who has to ask her out to lunch.

Even if he’s not approaching you in a bar, wherever he meets you, he still must take the risk in asking you out. For many men, confidence does not come naturally. Unfortunately, in dating, where men must risk rejection regularly to have success, confidence is required. This can be a huge, sometimes insurmountable, obstacle for some men to overcome.

No matter how you cut it, for men to get results in dating, they have to risk rejection much more than women. Remember this next time you’re getting frustrated with a guy’s hesitancy to make a move on you and help him out by making sure you make your signals to him clear.

2. Men cannot get a date or romantic attention easily

If a woman wants a date, sex, or even just a little ego kick, it’s not exactly scarce. It could be as simple as jumping on Tinder or getting dressed up to go out for the night. A woman has the security of knowing romantic attention – at least in some form – is always available, should she want it. Each time a man has to move the relationship forward, there is a chance of you rejecting him.

Spare a thought for men, who, even if they jump online or go out, are not guaranteed any of the above. A man always has to risk rejection to earn a date or more from a woman. Many men, especially those who are good guys but aren’t necessarily confident or good looking, never know where their next hit of romantic attention might come from.

3. Society puts enormous pressure on men to be good with women

Like it or not, more pressure is on men to have skills with women than the other way around. Growing up, boys who can flirt and interact with the girls are heroes by their friends, whereas girls who show extraordinary socials skills with men are often shamed by their jealous peers. The underlying message given to men is that they are not a true man and should be ashamed if they cannot attract a woman.

Take a moment to think about the gravity of pressure this message puts on men.

If a guy is around his mates at a bar, how does this pressure effect the chances of him approaching you?

He’s likely to shy away, not wanting to risk failure at something so ‘important’ in front of his friends.

If he’s sober, and you reject him harshly when he asks you out respectfully, how is he going to feel?

Probably, like never approaching another woman again and taking his feelings of rejection out on women in the future.

And, if a guy isn’t good with women, what is he likely to believe about himself?

“I’m not much of a man; I’m pathetic.”

The underlying message given to men is that they are not a true man and should be ashamed if they cannot attract a woman.

So, before you go saying things like, “Well, I wouldn’t date any guy who doesn’t have the confidence to approach me,” take the time to understand where he is coming from and how much pressure society puts on him to be good with women. If you’re giving resting bitch face or turning your back, he might be the perfect guy for you and a great person, but he’s never going to approach you.

4. Men are encouraged to be independent and not ask for help

When a woman asks for help with something, she generally has no fear of being judged for doing so. However, many men, raised with the belief that a man should be independent and strong, shy away from the possibility of admitting they may not have all the answers. In dating, this is especially problematic. Men are told it’s shameful and disrespectful to seek help to improve their dating skills. So much so, we’ve cancelled the Visas of men, who’ve tried to come to Australia and teach it! While some of these men may be coaching derogatory tactics, those who are genuinely trying to help men improve their dating lives and meet women, sadly, get tainted with the same brush.

This ties men’s hands when it comes to improving the parts of themselves that would make them more attractive dates, lovers, and partners. In my own life, admitting I was terrible with women and asking for help (then being looked down upon for trying to find it) was one of the most bitter pills I ever had to swallow, proving extremely bruising to my ego . It was worth it in the end, but such an experience highlights that men, both as children and adults, are actively encouraged against seeking help, especially in this area. So, spare a thought for the hopelessness a man, who isn’t good with women, must feel when he sees other men walk around with natural charm.

5. Men aren’t good ‘people readers’

Men are less intuitive and socially adept than women, which works in women’s favor on the dating playing field. If the task was to carry heavy boxes upstairs, this would give men an advantage, but in the social world of dating, the shoe is on the other foot. This stems from an evolutionary background, where women relied on social skills, rather than brute strength to survive.

Your average woman can read people better, make better conversations, and be more dynamic in her ability to read people than your average male. So, if you’ve ever met a guy, who hasn’t been able to keep up with the social pace or missed a couple of cues from the group, try to have empathy. Men aren’t born to talk and read situations the way you were.

6. From a man’s point of view, all a woman needs to pick up is… looks

And well… they’re right. Sort of. A woman can pretty herself and pick up every night of the week – if she wants to.

Of course, we both know if you were to actually do that you would rarely pickup the guy you actually wanted. Still, the point is that no matter where you are in life, if you get dressed up and go out, you could get something.

Look at this from a guy’s point of view. He doesn’t see the reality – you struggling to get the attention of the guy you want and getting hit on by creepers all night. He just sees a pretty girl with half the bar looking at her and trying to talk to her. What is that going to register in his mind? “Jees, women have it easy.”

Perception is reality. If he sees this (and believes it), then that is enough to make it real that you (and women like you) have the advantage.

7. Men are given mixed signals from a young age about what women want

“Be a gentleman.” “Treat a woman with upmost respect.” “Always put her before yourself.” Men are hammered with this advice growing up. Then, what happens to a guy who always follows this advice? He ends up in the damn friend zone!

It’s no wonder guys get confused about what women want. There are mixed messages coming from the media, their parents, and even other women (who in their eyes ask for one type of guy then date another) about what exactly women want. There aren’t too many young boy’s mothers who give the advice, “Son, open the door for her in the car and pull out her chair for her, then smack her ass hard while she moans in the bedroom.” And if someone tried to teach this en masse, someone else would take it out of context!

Young men are forced to figure it out for themselves and often get it wrong. So remember, sometimes, it’s not a guy fault if he doesn’t know what to do. It’s because everyone has been telling him different things his whole life.

Whether or not you believe men have the advantage in dating – at least, in these 7 areas, there’s no question –  women have the advantage. So, next time you get frustrated with a man, because he won’t make a move, doesn’t seem to ‘get’ you, or seems insecure about his abilities with women, remember, men have pressures on them you haven’t been brought up to identify with. Understanding such pressures and, perhaps, having a little more forgiveness and empathy for a man’s, sometimes  inexplicable, behaviors will see you approaching dating with more patience and acceptance, leading to more fulfilling experiences and relationships with men.

By Mark Rosenfeld from ThoughtCatalog

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If You Expertise These eight Indicators You Are a Extremely Intuitive Empath Delicate to Vitality

1. Dreaming About Incidents Before They Happen Have you ever dreamed about something in great detail before it happened? While it may seem as though it is purely coincidence, it may not be. Instead, you could be experiencing your intuition in action.

2. Having a Feeling About a Bad Situation….And Being Right Sometimes, we may have a bad feeling about something, yet we don’t trust our gut. However, if this happens constantly, and you always turn out being right about the situation, then it is likely that you are a highly-intuitive empath. 3. You Just Connect to Some People Upon entering a room full of people, you just sense certain things about people. While some may give you vibes that feel off, for whatever reason, you feel drawn to others. 4. You Usually End Up Getting What You Want While others struggle to achieve their goals and desires, it seems as though you somehow end up manifesting almost all of yours. 5. You Have To Recharge….A Lot After being around large groups of people, you feel exhausted. Because of this, people may think that you are being anti-social, however, that isn’t the case. Instead, you simply need a day or so alone to recharge after being around so many vibrations and emotions. 6. You Can See How Things Will Work Before They Happen Before a situation plays out, you can usually see what the outcome will be in your mind. 7. You Know When Someone Is Full Of It Without even knowing a person, you can somehow sense whether or not they are speaking the truth. 8. Even In A Room Full of Silence….It Seems Noisy You can be in a room full of people sitting in silence, but to you, it seems loud. Why? Because you can sense what each and every person is feeling, and it can be overwhelming at times. Source: Via EWAO]]>

The kind of f*ckboy you’re attracted to, based on your zodiac sign


 
Who knew getting f*cked over by men was written in the stars?

Fuckboys are like crop tops from Forever 21 – you always pick them out thinking they’ll look good, but then they ruin your life and your self-esteem.


by Mackenzie BehmUna Dabiero and Bobby Palmer

If you’re reading this, you’ve probably been blaming yourself for the shitty line of guys you’ve dated despite every friend you have begging you to call him quits. He’s probably not answered your calls, forgotten about a date, and REFUSED to acknowledge you on social media. But you also know there’s a little something special about him. He’s your breed of fuckboy, and that’s why you fall for guys like him over and over.

What if your fuckboy fantasies are written in the stars? We’re here to convince you they are. Here’s exactly what kind of guy you’re attracted to based on your star sign:

Aries: THAT guy

THAT guy is the loud guy at the party no one can stand but you. I mean, there’s someone for everyone, right? He’s the type who seems like he’d be in a frat, but you’re pretty sure he rushed and didn’t get a bid. As an Aries, a strong personality is attractive to you, even if he’s downing vodka Redbulls like it’s nothing. He will be an embarrassment to bring in public, will probably make eyes at every girl of the party, and publicly embarrass you – but you will love that piece of shit anyway.

Taurus: The Suit Man

Taurus’ love practicality, and that’s what this guy looks like he offers. The Suit Man dresses nice, he looks like a goddamn walking Ken doll, and smells like teakwood cologne which you love. And let me guess, he first caught your eye when he was cleaned up for a business event? As a Taurus, you can’t stop yourself from falling for guys who look like they have their shit together. But beware, this guy KNOWS he has his shit together – and will act like you don’t. You can’t stand how fucking arrogant he is, but it also kind of turns you on. Sigh.

Gemini: The litboy

As a gemini, you love a bit of adventure – and the asshole litboy gives you just that. You think the litboy is playing hard to get when he’s actually just an asshole, but his games will keep your quick mind busy. You like your wild side – and this guy’s douchey yet alternative man bun and Nietzche quotes appeal to you. You will hate that he always thinks he’s more emotionally intelligent than you even though he hasn’t asked you to be official yet. You will also hate that he insists on smoking cigs and talking philosophy at 2am when you’re trying to get that post-orgasm nap. Eventually he will leave you in the dirt like his Arctic Monkey albums that were edgy in 2012, but you’ll find another one just like him.

Cancer: The straight-edge

Cancers are kind of fucked up, and you like a partner who is fucked up on the inside but presents like GI Joe. The straight edge is a family guy, owns a Labrador retriever, and likes his mom a little too much. He doesn’t smoke weed but will definitely do coke because it’s out of his system in 48 hours. He has issues that you think you can fix, but you probably can’t. He will hide from his feelings by being way too aggressive about Football, voting for Trump, and telling you in casual conversation he wants to die. You will love the drama, but it will bite you in the ass when you realize there can only be one messed up one in the relationship. Find you a solid man, Cancer.

Leo: The spotlight stealer

As a Leo, you like to be the center of attention – but you also like a guy who is as confident as you are. So, you always go after The Spotlight Stealer. This is the guy whose flirting game is so strong it’s suspicious, but you look past that because you eat up the compliments. He is so hot, he’s a headturner, which you love, because it means more people are looking at YOU. But you also hate it because you’re a jealous bitch. This guy will take any conversation you have about your accomplishments to one-up you in conversation. If you got a 3.6, he got a 3.8 while being on the football team. Oh, you got a promotion? He’s a fucking CEO. Leo, he might be impressive, but you will slowly crumble under the pressure to beat him all the time. Or, he’ll fucking cheat on you. Who knows with him, to be honest. If he could fuck Kylie Jenner to get in a tabloid, he totally would.

Virgo: The “sweet” guy

Virgos like to feel in control, so they will fall for the guy who seems so sweet when you first meet him. At first, he presents as someone who your mom wouldn’t cringe at, who brings you flowers, and who’d probably provide a decent living. The sweet guy has a dad bod, so you aren’t intimidated, and he always arranges the dates. But soon after you go on the third or fourth date, you find out sweet guy is actually a psycho. He’s throwing you backhanded compliments and trying to crash girls’ night because he just needs soooooo much attention. He will make you feel out of control, but you can’t let him go because then you be wrong about him being the “one.” Virgo, it’s ok to be wrong sometimes! Cut that sweet, seemingly perfect guy and go for the chill one. We promise it’s worth it.

Libra: The chill but like way too chill one

As a Libra, you’re kind and gentle. You like peace, so naturally you fall for a guy who is super chill. He is the kind of guy who has an answer to ‘I don’t know, what do you want to eat’. He wears massive sweatpants in public, has a 5 o’clock shadow, and always smells slightly of weed. He thinks Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles is fine art, and probably reads anime. Even though he is pretty gross and doesn’t have a job, you love how relaxed you feel around him. But once he starts asking for pizza money and a new litter box for his hairy mountain cat that he lets shed all over his plush furniture, you’re gonna realize you need to leave. Then, you fall for another “chill” guy all over again.

Scorpio: The mysterious fuckboy

Scorpios are strong-willed and mysterious – so they like a partner who is just as exciting. The mysterious guy probably only chats via Snapchat and doesn’t share his location with anyone. You don’t know if he’s cheating on you, but let’s be real – he probably is. This guy is the definition of hard to get. Somehow, he knows everyone but no one KNOWS him, you know? You want to break down his walls because you’re stubborn as fuck, but he will never let you in – to his heart or his phone. Eventually, he will leave you for that Instagram model who was liking all of his smize selfies. You will hate him for it, but also end up drunk texting him every time you get blackout – which Scorpios are bound to do. He will always read your texts, but he will never respond.

Sagittarius: The absolute fucking clown

Sagittariuses are energetic and optimistic, so they love someone who can make them laugh. The clown is endearingly silly – but he also laughs at his own burps over dinner and makes you listen to stand-up comedy in the car. He likes Tenacious D, swears that Jack Black is a genius, and wears Cargo shorts ironically. You can literally never have a serious conversation with him and it annoys you that he is always poking you like you’re a fucking 2008 Facebook profile. But he can make you laugh, and therefore he can make you do anything. Including suck his dick. And you hate yourself for it.

Capricorn: The guy your friends hate

Capricorns are ambitious, so you like the guy your friends hate just because you know he’s going places. He looks boring – and he refuses to interact with your girlfriends because they are too “childish” – but he has a 401K and quite frankly that’s sexy as hell. This dude orders martinis and owns pastel shorts. But you love how cozy his turtlenecks and financial security feel, so you will probably end up having his pasty little children. Or he will leave you for his sexy tennis instructor.

Aquarius: The fuckboy friend

Listen Aquarius, you didn’t want to like him. You didn’t even want to go on a date with him, but he basically forced you to go to dinner “just as friends, I swear.” You’re affectionate and loyal, so you did. Then you found out that dick is bomb, and it basically ruined your entire life that you two started to see each other. Sure, he has a nice smile and the cozy “friend” look, but now things are weird with you and his sister who you’ve known since you were five. Especially when he starts to ask you for weird sexual favors. He wears his square glasses during sex and your dad was his football coach. Him breaking up with you for Jenna from High School will be even more awkward, because you put your life on the line for this. I’m so sorry.

Pisces: The “sensitive” fuckboy

Pisces love some romantic shit, so naturally they always fall for the emotional fuckboy. This is the guy who pulls moves straight from the Notebook but is actually a bum. He will write you love poems to make up for the fact that he actually doesn’t know how to process human emotions. He will convince you that he’s guarded, then ooze out love when he needs a favor. He will play you Hallelujah on the guitar, just because he’s a douchebag. This guy is the thorn on the rose, but you love him for how good it feels when it feels good. Keep fighting the good fight, Pisces.

The sort of f*ckboy you’re interested in, primarily based in your zodiac signal

  Who knew getting f*cked over by men was written in the stars?

Fuckboys are like crop tops from Forever 21 – you always pick them out thinking they’ll look good, but then they ruin your life and your self-esteem.


by Mackenzie BehmUna Dabiero and Bobby Palmer

If you’re reading this, you’ve probably been blaming yourself for the shitty line of guys you’ve dated despite every friend you have begging you to call him quits. He’s probably not answered your calls, forgotten about a date, and REFUSED to acknowledge you on social media. But you also know there’s a little something special about him. He’s your breed of fuckboy, and that’s why you fall for guys like him over and over.

What if your fuckboy fantasies are written in the stars? We’re here to convince you they are. Here’s exactly what kind of guy you’re attracted to based on your star sign:

Aries: THAT guy

THAT guy is the loud guy at the party no one can stand but you. I mean, there’s someone for everyone, right? He’s the type who seems like he’d be in a frat, but you’re pretty sure he rushed and didn’t get a bid. As an Aries, a strong personality is attractive to you, even if he’s downing vodka Redbulls like it’s nothing. He will be an embarrassment to bring in public, will probably make eyes at every girl of the party, and publicly embarrass you – but you will love that piece of shit anyway.

Taurus: The Suit Man

Taurus’ love practicality, and that’s what this guy looks like he offers. The Suit Man dresses nice, he looks like a goddamn walking Ken doll, and smells like teakwood cologne which you love. And let me guess, he first caught your eye when he was cleaned up for a business event? As a Taurus, you can’t stop yourself from falling for guys who look like they have their shit together. But beware, this guy KNOWS he has his shit together – and will act like you don’t. You can’t stand how fucking arrogant he is, but it also kind of turns you on. Sigh.

Gemini: The litboy

As a gemini, you love a bit of adventure – and the asshole litboy gives you just that. You think the litboy is playing hard to get when he’s actually just an asshole, but his games will keep your quick mind busy. You like your wild side – and this guy’s douchey yet alternative man bun and Nietzche quotes appeal to you. You will hate that he always thinks he’s more emotionally intelligent than you even though he hasn’t asked you to be official yet. You will also hate that he insists on smoking cigs and talking philosophy at 2am when you’re trying to get that post-orgasm nap. Eventually he will leave you in the dirt like his Arctic Monkey albums that were edgy in 2012, but you’ll find another one just like him.

Cancer: The straight-edge

Cancers are kind of fucked up, and you like a partner who is fucked up on the inside but presents like GI Joe. The straight edge is a family guy, owns a Labrador retriever, and likes his mom a little too much. He doesn’t smoke weed but will definitely do coke because it’s out of his system in 48 hours. He has issues that you think you can fix, but you probably can’t. He will hide from his feelings by being way too aggressive about Football, voting for Trump, and telling you in casual conversation he wants to die. You will love the drama, but it will bite you in the ass when you realize there can only be one messed up one in the relationship. Find you a solid man, Cancer.

Leo: The spotlight stealer

As a Leo, you like to be the center of attention – but you also like a guy who is as confident as you are. So, you always go after The Spotlight Stealer. This is the guy whose flirting game is so strong it’s suspicious, but you look past that because you eat up the compliments. He is so hot, he’s a headturner, which you love, because it means more people are looking at YOU. But you also hate it because you’re a jealous bitch. This guy will take any conversation you have about your accomplishments to one-up you in conversation. If you got a 3.6, he got a 3.8 while being on the football team. Oh, you got a promotion? He’s a fucking CEO. Leo, he might be impressive, but you will slowly crumble under the pressure to beat him all the time. Or, he’ll fucking cheat on you. Who knows with him, to be honest. If he could fuck Kylie Jenner to get in a tabloid, he totally would.

Virgo: The “sweet” guy

Virgos like to feel in control, so they will fall for the guy who seems so sweet when you first meet him. At first, he presents as someone who your mom wouldn’t cringe at, who brings you flowers, and who’d probably provide a decent living. The sweet guy has a dad bod, so you aren’t intimidated, and he always arranges the dates. But soon after you go on the third or fourth date, you find out sweet guy is actually a psycho. He’s throwing you backhanded compliments and trying to crash girls’ night because he just needs soooooo much attention. He will make you feel out of control, but you can’t let him go because then you be wrong about him being the “one.” Virgo, it’s ok to be wrong sometimes! Cut that sweet, seemingly perfect guy and go for the chill one. We promise it’s worth it.

Libra: The chill but like way too chill one

As a Libra, you’re kind and gentle. You like peace, so naturally you fall for a guy who is super chill. He is the kind of guy who has an answer to ‘I don’t know, what do you want to eat’. He wears massive sweatpants in public, has a 5 o’clock shadow, and always smells slightly of weed. He thinks Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles is fine art, and probably reads anime. Even though he is pretty gross and doesn’t have a job, you love how relaxed you feel around him. But once he starts asking for pizza money and a new litter box for his hairy mountain cat that he lets shed all over his plush furniture, you’re gonna realize you need to leave. Then, you fall for another “chill” guy all over again.

Scorpio: The mysterious fuckboy

Scorpios are strong-willed and mysterious – so they like a partner who is just as exciting. The mysterious guy probably only chats via Snapchat and doesn’t share his location with anyone. You don’t know if he’s cheating on you, but let’s be real – he probably is. This guy is the definition of hard to get. Somehow, he knows everyone but no one KNOWS him, you know? You want to break down his walls because you’re stubborn as fuck, but he will never let you in – to his heart or his phone. Eventually, he will leave you for that Instagram model who was liking all of his smize selfies. You will hate him for it, but also end up drunk texting him every time you get blackout – which Scorpios are bound to do. He will always read your texts, but he will never respond.

Sagittarius: The absolute fucking clown

Sagittariuses are energetic and optimistic, so they love someone who can make them laugh. The clown is endearingly silly – but he also laughs at his own burps over dinner and makes you listen to stand-up comedy in the car. He likes Tenacious D, swears that Jack Black is a genius, and wears Cargo shorts ironically. You can literally never have a serious conversation with him and it annoys you that he is always poking you like you’re a fucking 2008 Facebook profile. But he can make you laugh, and therefore he can make you do anything. Including suck his dick. And you hate yourself for it.

Capricorn: The guy your friends hate

Capricorns are ambitious, so you like the guy your friends hate just because you know he’s going places. He looks boring – and he refuses to interact with your girlfriends because they are too “childish” – but he has a 401K and quite frankly that’s sexy as hell. This dude orders martinis and owns pastel shorts. But you love how cozy his turtlenecks and financial security feel, so you will probably end up having his pasty little children. Or he will leave you for his sexy tennis instructor.

Aquarius: The fuckboy friend

Listen Aquarius, you didn’t want to like him. You didn’t even want to go on a date with him, but he basically forced you to go to dinner “just as friends, I swear.” You’re affectionate and loyal, so you did. Then you found out that dick is bomb, and it basically ruined your entire life that you two started to see each other. Sure, he has a nice smile and the cozy “friend” look, but now things are weird with you and his sister who you’ve known since you were five. Especially when he starts to ask you for weird sexual favors. He wears his square glasses during sex and your dad was his football coach. Him breaking up with you for Jenna from High School will be even more awkward, because you put your life on the line for this. I’m so sorry.

Pisces: The “sensitive” fuckboy

Pisces love some romantic shit, so naturally they always fall for the emotional fuckboy. This is the guy who pulls moves straight from the Notebook but is actually a bum. He will write you love poems to make up for the fact that he actually doesn’t know how to process human emotions. He will convince you that he’s guarded, then ooze out love when he needs a favor. He will play you Hallelujah on the guitar, just because he’s a douchebag. This guy is the thorn on the rose, but you love him for how good it feels when it feels good. Keep fighting the good fight, Pisces.

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This Is The Creepiest Thing About You, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

Aries: March 21st – April 19th

You’re always thinking about death. On your way to class, you wonder what would happen if you stepped in front of a moving car and while you’re driving, you wonder what would happen if you jolted your wheel to the right. You’re fixated on death.

Taurus: April 20th – May 20th

You’re a stalker. You could spend hours looking through Instagram and Facebook pages. And if your crush (or ex) is in a picture with someone pretty, you’ll find that person’s page and look through all of their stuff. You might even ‘accidentally’ run into them at their job or favorite coffee shop.

Gemini: May 21st – June 20th

You’re a skilled liar. You can come up with stories out of the blue and force people to believe them. Sometimes, you lie just for the fun of it. Just to see if you can get away with it. And you always do.

Cancer: June 21st – July 22nd

You get obsessive. When you date someone, they become your everything. You’re the type of person that would hack up your partner for cheating on you — and wouldn’t feel a drop of guilt after the fact.

Leo: July 23rd – August 22nd

Sometimes, you picture your own funeral. You imagine who would show up first. Who would cry the loudest. Who would be the most torn apart by your death. It’s a sick fantasy that makes you feel important.

Virgo: August 23rd – September 22nd

You’re an innocent little angel during the day, but when it’s nighttime and you’re fantasizing about sex, some pretty bizarre things cross your mind. Things you wish you weren’t turned on by.

Libra: September 23rd – October 22nd

Your Youtube history, Wiki history, and Netflix history is creepy AF. You’ve watched some pretty disturbing shit. If the government every gets ahold of your computer, they’d easily mistake you for a serial killer.

Scorpio: October 23rd – November 21st

Toxic thoughts pop into your head at random. When you’re holding a baby animal, you think of how easily you could crush it. When you’re walking by a pretty lady, you think of how quickly you could push her into the middle of the street. You would never actually do those things. But you think about them all the time.

Sagittarius: November 22nd – December 21st

You could look someone in the eyes and tell them that their elderly grandmother died without shedding a single tear. Sometimes, you don’t feel emotions the way that you’re supposed to. Sometimes, you only feel numb.

Capricorn: December 22nd – January 19th

You plan out the deaths of your friends and family members. It’s not that you actually want to hurt them. It’s just a mental exercise. You try to figure out how you’d get away with each of their murders — just to see how smart you are.

Aquarius: January 20th – February 18th

More than once, you’ve thought about what you’d say during your mother or father or best friend’s funeral. They’re not sick or anything. But you like to be creative — and what’s more creative than writing an emotional eulogy?

Pisces: February 19th – March 20th

When you daydream, you think about terrifying things like what would happen if someone tried to shoot up your office. In your fantasies, you picture yourself as the hero. The person that kills the bad guy and saves the day. 

This Is The Creepiest Factor About You, Primarily based On Your Zodiac Signal

Aries: March 21st – April 19th

You’re always thinking about death. On your way to class, you wonder what would happen if you stepped in front of a moving car and while you’re driving, you wonder what would happen if you jolted your wheel to the right. You’re fixated on death.

Taurus: April 20th – May 20th

You’re a stalker. You could spend hours looking through Instagram and Facebook pages. And if your crush (or ex) is in a picture with someone pretty, you’ll find that person’s page and look through all of their stuff. You might even ‘accidentally’ run into them at their job or favorite coffee shop.

Gemini: May 21st – June 20th

You’re a skilled liar. You can come up with stories out of the blue and force people to believe them. Sometimes, you lie just for the fun of it. Just to see if you can get away with it. And you always do.

Cancer: June 21st – July 22nd

You get obsessive. When you date someone, they become your everything. You’re the type of person that would hack up your partner for cheating on you — and wouldn’t feel a drop of guilt after the fact.

Leo: July 23rd – August 22nd

Sometimes, you picture your own funeral. You imagine who would show up first. Who would cry the loudest. Who would be the most torn apart by your death. It’s a sick fantasy that makes you feel important.

Virgo: August 23rd – September 22nd

You’re an innocent little angel during the day, but when it’s nighttime and you’re fantasizing about sex, some pretty bizarre things cross your mind. Things you wish you weren’t turned on by.

Libra: September 23rd – October 22nd

Your Youtube history, Wiki history, and Netflix history is creepy AF. You’ve watched some pretty disturbing shit. If the government every gets ahold of your computer, they’d easily mistake you for a serial killer.

Scorpio: October 23rd – November 21st

Toxic thoughts pop into your head at random. When you’re holding a baby animal, you think of how easily you could crush it. When you’re walking by a pretty lady, you think of how quickly you could push her into the middle of the street. You would never actually do those things. But you think about them all the time.

Sagittarius: November 22nd – December 21st

You could look someone in the eyes and tell them that their elderly grandmother died without shedding a single tear. Sometimes, you don’t feel emotions the way that you’re supposed to. Sometimes, you only feel numb.

Capricorn: December 22nd – January 19th

You plan out the deaths of your friends and family members. It’s not that you actually want to hurt them. It’s just a mental exercise. You try to figure out how you’d get away with each of their murders — just to see how smart you are.

Aquarius: January 20th – February 18th

More than once, you’ve thought about what you’d say during your mother or father or best friend’s funeral. They’re not sick or anything. But you like to be creative — and what’s more creative than writing an emotional eulogy?

Pisces: February 19th – March 20th

When you daydream, you think about terrifying things like what would happen if someone tried to shoot up your office. In your fantasies, you picture yourself as the hero. The person that kills the bad guy and saves the day. 

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You Ought to Date An INTP

If you like intense conversations about current issues, politics, ideas and culture, you should date an INTP.

If you want someone interested in culture and the arts, science and technology, someone who will take you to exhibitions and introduce you to art things you never knew about, you should date an INTP.

An INTP lives for ideas and probing conversation, and instead of talking over you actually listens when you speak. This can be such a refreshing change of pace, especially if you’re used to dating assholes who always have all the answers and never let you get a word in edge-wise.

An INTP will nourish your creative soul.

You should date an INTP because s/he will know how to get you out of social engagements you weren’t really interested in anyway.

Always easy going, never demanding, an INTP will say, “I don’t know, what do you think?” when asked if you want to stay in tonight or go to that big birthday party. And that’s your chance to admit that actually you’d rather just stay in. The INTP will agree with you.

You should date an INTP because they are loyal.

When they like you, they like you. You can trust that they’re not faking it, or stringing you along, or leading you on or messing around with other people because it’s hard for them to make new relationships with people. For an INTP, personal relationships are everything and it would just be too much work to be loyal to loads of different people.

If what you’re hungry for in your relationship is someone in touch with their emotions, you should date an INTP. An INTP feels emotions very strongly.

That said, an INTP might be in love with you and will feel an deep emotional connection to you but might be too afraid to say something. There’s fear you don’t feel the same or fear that telling you would make you flee. The emotions are there but they’re too afraid to come clean.

So they stay quiet.

An INTP is not going to tie you down because they have no desire to control you.

They will never ask where you were last night, they will never sneak through your text messages but they will leave you to be your own person. Everyone has their flaws. Nobody is ever perfect. But an INTP has already come to terms with your flaws and accepts you for who you are already, not who they wish you were.

An INTP understands that relationships aren’t about having a “better half” or “someone to complete you.” They’re about two already whole, awesome-ass people coming together and exploring life together.

You should date an INTP because they are not demanding. They are easy going, calm, and generally go with the flow. They’re not huge divas who make a scene when they don’t get their way, or who pout extensively when they don’t get what they want, and they definitely won’t pick a fight with you over something really dumb.

But above all else you should date an INTP because they are fun to be around. They love trying new things and enjoying the pleasures of being around you.

Plus, an INTP is usually absent-minded and that will be sort of cute.

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6 Issues Each ENFJ Wants To Be Reminded Of Each As soon as In A Whereas

ENFJs are the organized, people-savvy nurturers who serve as the glue of almost any group of friends. You know that totally together, super popular person you wish you could hate but can’t because they’re so genuinely nice? Probably an ENFJ. This extroverted type feeds off the energy of other and derives their greatest joy from seeing those around them thrive. The only downside:ENFJs get so wrapped up in the lives of those around them that they often forget about their own needs. If you have an ENFJ in your life, here are a few things they most likely need reminding of.

1. You deserve to have feelings of your own.


ENFJS draw their greatest joy from the happiness of others, which means that their own feelings are often put on the back burner. No matter what’s going on with those around them, ENFJs need to remember that their own feelings are important – and that they ought to be nurtured just as carefully as the feelings of those around them.

2. Not all decisions are set in stone.


ENFJs take decision-making very seriously. They don’t fancy the thought of backtracking on a choice, especially if that choice involves a commitment to someone else. This occasionally means that they will stay in bad situations longer than necessary.

Every ENFJ needs the occasional reminder that it’s okay to change their minds. Re-evaluating our priorities is a natural part of being human in this ever-changing world, and nobody should feel guilty for exercising that right. In the long run, a change of plans might even work out best for everyone.

3. Some people only learn the hard way.


There is nothing more painful for an ENFJ than being around a struggling friend who will not accept help. At these times, it is important to remember that the process of coming to a decision is often just as important for loved ones as actually reaching it is. While an ENFJ may genuinely see the best path for someone they are close to, supporting someone as they find their own way can ultimately be more helpful than simply pointing them in the right direction.

4. It is not your personal responsibility to solve everyone’s problems.


ENFJs take the weight of everyone else’s’ issues on their shoulders — which can be a heavy burden to bear. ENFJs need to remember that taking on a problem does not mean it is their fault if things do not work out — any help they give is simply a bonus.

5. You are probably doing more than you’re being given credit for.


ENFJs thrive off validation, but don’t always receive it from those around them. When this happens, ENFJs tend to get down on themselves and believe the lack of feedback is because they are not trying hard enough. Nine times out of ten, this is not the case. Every ENFJ needs to remember that not being thanked does not always mean not being appreciated — chances are they’re silently appreciated every single day.

6. You, more than anyone else, deserve your own care and concern.


ENFJs are almost always the strong “Mama or Papa Bears” of any group. They are constantly watching out for their friends, but not always monitoring their own well being. ENFJs need to remember that their own health and happiness is just as important as that of the people they protect – after all, a group of cubs is lost without their healthy Mama bear.]]>

15 Causes INFJs Discover It So Exhausting To Transfer On From Heartbreak

1. INFJs prioritize order and harmony over most everything.

Most relationships don’t end amicably right away. Someone is generally hurt. For the INFJ who prioritizes the moral order of the universe over most everything and needs for life to be copacetic, the imbalance that this creates will haunt them endlessly. INFJs desire peace and stability in their lives and in the lives of those around them, and when that sense of harmony is disrupted and broken, the INFJ often becomes self-blaming, placing the load on their shoulders as they seek ways to restore order and balance.

2. INFJs tend to be overly apologetic and self-blaming.

An INFJ’s favorite word might just be “sorry.” They’re sorry for pain they’ve caused. They’re sorry for pain they didn’t cause. They’re sorry for pain you caused them. They’re just really sorry. So when a relationship goes south, they often get hung up on the all the things they feel an overwhelming agony to be sorry for, all the things they feel they did wrong. It can be hard to move on when there are so many things they feel they need to apologize for.

3. INFJs cope by retreating into solitude.

INFJs are naturally people who need to spend a lot of time alone to recharge. It’s good to take time to be alone, in the wake of heartbreak or otherwise. But there is such thing as too much alone time, and if there’s any type equipped to write a novel about that, it’s the INFJ, who slips into a ruminating and obsessive mindset far more easily than they’d like to admit. The thing about retreating into solitude for an INFJ who’s dealing with heartbreak is that it’ll move them past a place of healthy self-love and self-reflection and into a world where loss and emptiness rule, and that’s a dark place for the typically idealistic INFJ.

4. INFJs have an innate and undeniable darkness.

INFJs are natural idealists, but there’s a bottomless darkness to them that’s always circling them like a shark. In the wake of heartbreak and feeling beaten down and broken, something about letting the INFJ’s darkness take over just feels so damn gratifying and peaceful, a gentle succumbing. Finally, finally, this is my true self, the INFJ might think, and where this gets dangerous is that they might start to really believe it, that all there is to life is desperation and need and disappointment and deadness. What’s worse, they might start to romanticize it, connecting deeply and painfully with the kind of tormented music, art and books that only bury them further into the hole they’re in.

5. INFJs are conflicted by love and revenge.

INFJs are naturally fierce protectors, but the flip side of this is that, when hurt, they can be made into destroyers. While growth and maturity for the INFJ often yield a more gentle belief in karma or poetic justice, an INFJ experiencing heartbreak is likely also experiencing a war inside their mind. The overly empathetic INFJ will want to love everyone and everything, to know and believe that there is love everywhere, that we are love, and most importantly that the people who hurt us are the ones we need to love the most. On the flip side, the INFJ will wonder if love and kindness are recipes for being a doormat, if maybe there’s something after all to bashing those who have broken our hearts. Which is worse? For the INFJ – overthinkers by nature – maybe they’ll never know.

6. INFJs let in such a select few.

INFJs are incredibly private, harboring secrets in a way that others don’t tend to do. With trust no easy feat for them, if an INFJ has opened up to another person and revealed who they truly are, it’s been a challenging process for them, one laced with self-doubt and caution always at the back of their mind. When someone who the INFJ has exposed the most intimate parts of themselves to leaves or hurts them, the INFJ often snaps backwards, retreating, feeling that they’ve given something away that they shouldn’t have. This lingering sense of having made a mistake in letting someone in can slow progress in moving on.

7. INFJs tend to be building the future in their heads.

It’s the INFJ’s judging preference, in combination with being an intuitive, that leads them to process information in such a way that they’re often planning the future. In this way, when a relationship ends, it can be devastating to the INFJ because they had started building in their heads the life they thought they could anticipate. While that’s not to say that the INFJ is planning the wedding on the first date – they’re too practical or realistic to be thinking in this kind of way – they somehow do just know, in their gut, and often in a jarringly short period of time, when there is a true future with someone. INFJs may try not to have expectations for life ahead, but they often can’t help but have at least some sense of a plan, and in the wake of heartbreak, the shattering of the future they believed would be real can yield a lot of pain for the INFJ.

8. INFJs jump into relationships hard, fast and intensely.

People often joke about how INFJs can see straight into your soul, and in some sense, this feels quite true. INFJs tend to get a premonition about something in about the same manner as being struck by lightning. Though it’s a rare occurrence, this “sixth sense” often leads the INFJ to fall for people extremely quickly. An INFJ may simply see someone from across a room and know immediately that they know something about the other person – that there’s an intense connection – before even meeting them. In this way, though guarded, the INFJ tends to jump in quickly, opening themselves up to be hurt regardless of whether things go south in six years or six days.

9. INFJs are picky about their partners.

INFJs are incredibly selective about who they’ll date. Something about hurting another person is unbearably painful for the INFJ – so much so that the INFJ would often rather see themselves get hurt before hurting another, burying their own pain for the sake of keeping others happy – so INFJs tend to be very cautious about who they get into relationships with. To minimize the possibility of hurting another, they’ll only allow themselves to date when they 100{da98e796ff253ab21784d6d15b52f5f89ad4dda093e04c545ca8dbabfb7a221f} know they’re interested in someone and they 100{da98e796ff253ab21784d6d15b52f5f89ad4dda093e04c545ca8dbabfb7a221f} see a realistic future with that person. That said, having been so selective about a partner can really backfire on them when a relationship goes south. This kind of intense investment from so early on can leave the INFJ devastated if their partner wasn’t 100{da98e796ff253ab21784d6d15b52f5f89ad4dda093e04c545ca8dbabfb7a221f} sure about them right from the get-go (and so often this is of course the case). To boot, the INFJ knows it might be a long time again before they feel a similarly strong bond with another, making it even harder to move on and recover from heartbreak.

10. INFJs simply aren’t out meeting tons of people.

One might say that INFJs don’t get out much. They value time spent alone or doing quieter activities with a valued few. A packed bar on a Friday night might not be the most appealing place for an INFJ; they’re more likely to be home building a pillow fort and reading. So when the INFJ has stumbled across someone who they really connect with, when they’ve finally found someone who balances them out and also understands them at their core, this person inherently means a lot to them, and losing them can be devastating. Meeting someone new seems to always be the final push over the hump of heartbreak, and the fact that the INFJ typically just isn’t out meeting tons of people may keep them from moving on as quickly as others.

11. INFJs are perfectionists who struggle with failure.

INFJs tend to bring perfectionist tendencies into all that they do, and relationships aren’t spared from that. Because the INFJ gleans so much of their self-worth from how well they can keep everything together, when a relationship falls apart, often so does the sense of worth of the INFJ. Part of what holds an INFJ from moving on after heartbreak is the nagging sense of failure that they just can’t seem to kick.

12. INFJs won’t find much value in a rebound.

INFJs place a lot of value and meaning in a shared connection, which to them is built heavily on something real and vulnerable and open more so than on sex or lust or physical desire. Sex for the INFJ is typically an extension of expressing how they feel about their partner and thus is entirely empty if there isn’t a deep emotional and intellectual component to the relationship. While sex is an unquestionably important part of a relationship to the INFJ, it’s not the thing that’s most deeply and painfully lost when a relationship ends. What they most miss is that rare and intense sense of connection. That said, the age-old “go hook up with somebody else” rebound move won’t do much for the heartbroken INFJ who craves a bond and sense of mutual understanding with another.

13. INFJs love the feeling of balance and completion that a partner provides them.

INFJs are notoriously often in their own worlds, living very much in their heads. They tend to be outwardly serious and composed, keeping a playfulness locked away inside of them that’s often only accessed by a rare few across their entire lifetime. Ideal partners for the INFJ tend to be a mirror: lively and fun on the exterior and harboring a darker, more serious room inside of them that only a handful of people are let into. In believing it’s safe to let someone into that guarded place inside of them, the INFJ feels and falls in love with the feeling of balance and completion that their partner provides them. Thus, when a relationship ends, the INFJ can be left feeling as if a part of them has been stripped away, the rug ripped out from under them. To go from that sense of being made whole and grounded by another to suddenly being without them leaves the INFJ feeling split in two and, now knowing what life was like with the one they loved, far more aware of their shortcomings.

14. INFJs are naturally romantic and imaginative people.

The mix of intuition and feeling in their type makes the INFJ a natural romantic, extremely passionate about everything they do, and particularly so about the people they love. Paired with their creative nature, the INFJ tends to live in a hidden world of possibilities, often erring into fantastical thinking. An INFJ in love is an INFJ floating through a daydream – and conversely, an INFJ experiencing heartbreak is an INFJ struggling to believe in hope and living alongside a dark sense of loneliness. To feel stripped of their naturally romantic and imaginative nature leaves the INFJ lost and confused.

15. INFJs like to be needed.

While many other types desire to be wanted, INFJs like to be needed. Combine this with the fact that INFJs, at less than 1{da98e796ff253ab21784d6d15b52f5f89ad4dda093e04c545ca8dbabfb7a221f} of the population, are the rarest of the personality types and often feel misunderstood and it makes sense as to why INFJs are devastated and don’t bounce back as quickly or easily as others after getting their heart broken. After having found someone who they felt understood them and who had needed them, it’s unspeakably painful to lose both.

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How Each Zodiac Sign Wants To Be Kissed

Cancer

(June 22nd to July 22nd)

A Cancer needs a kiss to be romantic for it to be considered a good kiss. It’s not the volatile, passionate kiss of a Gemini, but it is one where you feel passionate about the other person. Make the setting romantic: good lighting, candles, music — and just be alone and distraction free so you can focus on each other.

Capricorn

(December 22nd to January 20th)

A Capricorn wants a kiss that hits all the right checkboxes. It should be at the end of a dinner and movie date, you should both be well dressed and smelling good — it should look like a kiss in a rom com, basically. Don’t get overly passionate or messy, this should be a conventionally perfect kiss they can tell their friends about.

Gemini

(May 22nd to June 21st)

Geminis want to be overwhelmed with passion. It doesn’t even really matter if you’re skilled at what you’re doing, as long as you act like you’re really into it you’ll blow them away. Put your hands on their face, in their hair — pull them close, make little mini-moans of pleasure. Make the kiss something you both can get swept up in.

Aquarius

(January 21st to February 18th)

A good kiss for an Aquarius is passionate, but not emotional. It’s a fulfillment of primal desire, but not necessarily an emotionally intimate experience. Try to turn your brain off and give into whatever your body feels like it naturally wants to do. Don’t hold their face or be overly romantic, focus on the physical connection.

Sagittarius

(November 23rd to December 21st)

A good kiss for a Sagittarius needs to be playful and fun. Don’t be monotonous and do the same thing over and over. Explore their body, kiss different parts of them, pause to smile or laugh or make a joke. Don’t make the mood too heavy or serious.

Virgo

(August 23rd to September 22nd)

A Virgo’s perfect kiss is by the book vs. experimental. Impress them with technical skill and effort. Nothing is sexier to a Virgo than effort.

Leo

(July 23rd to August 22nd)

Making a Leo happy while kissing them means making them feel like a star. When you pull apart, compliment their kissing style.

Libra

(September 23rd to October 22nd)

A kiss for a Libra is an excuse to go on a fact-finding mission about how you feel about them. When you kiss your Libra, you should use it to communicate how much you care about them. Use your hands to gently caress them during the fact, be sweet or passionate — or whatever your feelings currently are — as long as it’s not perfunctory and lukewarm.

Aries

(March 21st to April 19th)

In order for an Aries to consider a kiss good, it needs to be adventurous. The worst sin here, is to be boring. Try something new — mix it up between deep kisses and playful pecks, kiss their neck or ear and then switch to their mouth. Keep things feeling fun and new.

Taurus

(April 20th to May 21st)

Taurus is a sensual sign. People born under this sign love physical pleasure in it’s many forms. Try to stimulate as many of their senses as you can while kissing them. Use your hands to play with their hair, your mouth to kiss them (duh), and make little noises of appreciation to bring their sense of hearing into it.

Pisces

(February 19th to March 20th)

A good kiss for a Pisces is all about the lead up. The night should be romantic and old-fashioned: set the mood with a great meal and some good music. Take your time when kissing a Pisces, it’s not a race and it doesn’t necessarily have to lead anywhere. Work on creating a kiss you’ll both enjoy in the moment.

Scorpio

(October 23rd to November 22nd)

Kissing a Scorpio is like fighting with a Scorpio: intense, passionate — and about the fun they have doing it, not about what happens next. It’s a fiery experience that is unlike kissing any other sign. Let your Scorpio take the lead, they’ll be more than happy to show you what they want.

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